In the last few weeks we have had some parenting moments that have tested our resolve and it got me thinking about my Heavenly Father. As a child of a God, I wonder what my Heavenly Father is doing and why things happen the way they do. There are some key phrases that we use as parents that give us a picture of how our Heavenly Father parents us!
“I’m disappointed in your behavior, but I still love you”
I give them eternal life, and they will never perish. No one can snatch them away from me. John 10:28
While we may struggle from time to time with doing the right thing in situations, I find it reassuring that my Heavenly Father may not like my choice, but I will always be his little girl. He will never stop loving me. As John 10:28 states I can never be taken from his hand. My actions can not cause me to be removed from His hand. When I am wounded by my own choices, He wants me to crawl up in his arms and find rest and healing in Him.
“I’m doing what’s best for you”
For I know the plans I have for you, says the LORD. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11
There are moments as a parent that the best choice for your child isn’t a popular choice or one that they agree with – and that’s ok! It is not your job to always do what they want, but rather what is best for them.
Consider Matthew 7:11- So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him.
If we as imperfect parents can understand that we want what is best for our kids, how much more does a perfect parent want good things for His children? We may not understand it or want to stomp our feet and say “It’s not fair”, but remembering that He has good things planned for us is important when thinking about your Heavenly Father.
“It hurts me worse that it hurts you”
Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. Proverbs 22:6
Have you ever planned something fun for your kid only to pick them up for school with a note from the teacher? This happened to us last Friday. We had planned for our youngest to enjoy an open gym, games and dance party at a local dance studio. I was excited for her because it was Decendants themed and I knew she would love it. It would also give David and I a date night, which we were looking forward to. We picked her up from school and she had a note home from the teacher for the second day in a row. We made the tough call not to take her to the party and have her clean her room to pristine condition instead. It cost us… tears of disappointment for not being able to go to the event, $25 for the event, and a date night. I was disappointed for her. I was sad for her.
Consider this situation from a God’s perspective. Perhaps He has organized events behind the scenes to put you in a position to be in a particularly impactful sphere of influence. Perhaps He did this for you to be available to help someone around you in need. Perhaps He did this for you to be able to further your dreams and hopes. We may never know. But due to our disobedience, this situation may not be possible any longer. In my life, I’ve seen this most when I wanted to be in control. By taking the wheel on a situation and jumping the gun to go after something, I missed an awesome opportunity that I wasn’t able to be apart of because I had already pushed my agenda. I imagine God is saddened and disappointed by this.
How is your parenting effected by your faith?